Ditch the resolutions and try Relationship Goals for 2018! Make it your year to figure out what you want, find new places to find it or recommit to the love you already have!
When you think about it, 2017 was an onslaught of emotional, psychological and theoretical adjustments, especially on a social level. Our world (literally and figuratively) continues to change at a rapid pace. Political, socioeconomic and cultural shifts implemented this year will have strong repercussions in 2018 and beyond.
Socially, this makes you all want to lock down your love lives! Find someone special to anchor and help you through the changes ahead. I'll be honest, as a single woman, I understand the desire. It can be a challenge to navigate and digest the ups and downs of life when you run the entire ship. There is no one to bounce ideas off of, let you know when you're taking on too much, or share the triumphs of a job well done. A partner mirrors our decisions, is a compass for direction and can be a comfort when the train goes off the rails.
On the flip side, the freedom of being the only person responsible for your ups and downs, keeping your own counsel and setting the course for the moment, hour or day is a privilege that can't be ignored, which leads to my point.
I know you're reading and hearing and "New Year Resolutions" everywhere, which is expected. But face it, by the time we hit our mid 20's the idea of making resolutions for the new year is a waste of time. Basically because they'll get broken within the first few days or weeks of the year. For the sake of intention, I think goals are a better bet!
If you're single, sit down and think about what you really want in a relationship. Create a goal to put yourself in environments and/or try new things that will put you in the vicinity of that type of person. Be careful though, this may mean moving past your comfort zone. List 3 places (other than a bar, gym or work) where you can do something new and meet someone with the qualities you're looking for.
If you're on the fence about a relationship you're already in, think about what value that person brings into your life, other than monetary (if that's even a factor). How does he or she make you feel? Do you learn, grow and experience life in a better way with this person, or do they bring you down? Give yourself the goal of serious thought about this topic. If they're right for you, you'll know it. Trust your instincts and figure out a way to work on the relationship to get it where you want it to be. If not, make a definitive decision to end the relationship. It doesn't matter if your grandma likes them, or your friends love them...if you don't, there's no point in being together.
Already dating or married? Think about making a commitment or a recommitment to your relationship. Been thinking about moving together, discuss taking the leap. Wanna give your marriage more time, your spouse more attention? Book a vacation for just the two of you and do something both fun and romantic.
As 2017 comes to a close, let 2018 be the new beginning that it is. Give yourself the goals of love rather than resolutions.