As soon as you decide to get serious about dating and relationships, you embark on a Love Lifestyle. Believe it or not, you start doing things that change who you are into who you want, or hope to be, in a relationship!
I talk to my clients a lot about the "Love Lifestyle." They often ask what that means and here's my definition: The Love Lifestyle is the way you live before, during and after dating. This includes mental, physical, emotional health and accompanying behavior that surrounds a romantic partnership. Individuals spend various amounts of time, energy and money when they decide to pursue a relationship. Broken down by two main categories, dating and relationships. Think about your past attempts to date. Can you assess where you've made significant effort to either participate in or continuously live in a state of romantic endeavor?
Dating - this includes searching (dating apps, websites, matchmakers, networking) for the sole purpose to meet someone you're attracted to and start a relationship (albeit mental, physical and/or emotional). In addition, going on dates, investing interest and communication with someone in the hopes that you build, primarily, an emotional and physical connection.
Relationships - the act of being in one or more relationships (simultaneously or separately) in an effort to feel or reciprocate love, desire (lust) and/or validation and appreciation.
Health, wellness, beauty and fashion are major areas of effort. For example, how many people do you know change their diet, work out routine (or start working out), fashion and perspective (on various topics) when they get interested or experience interest from a potential romantic partner? Lots of people, myself included, right? Those changes are exactly what the Love Lifestyle is, a change in mental or physical behavior to satisfy the emotional response to a potential romantic relationship.
Countless areas of enterprise benefit from this lifestyle! From the food industry (restaurants), to entertainment ('date night' movies...'Netflix and chill'), technology (aforementioned dating apps and sites), wellness (couples massages) and travel. Ways to embark on and capitalize off of romantic partnership is everywhere. I consider it a 'lifestyle' that is growing with technology and our increasingly innate desire to be romantically involved.
What do you you think, is the process to look for, maintain and find love a "lifestyle" choice?