Dissolve your resolutions and create some goals for dating and relationships this year! Make a solid case (to yourself) for the decision, write it down and get started.
We're three days into 2018 and your resolutions are still alive...barely! Have you been active in the gym the past few days? Given up that morning muffin for avocado toast or cut back on one glass of wine after dinner? Whoa, that's a lot! How long do you think you can keep that up? Well, more power to you because you have about three more weeks (MAX) before you give up entirely, and then it's back to last year's bad habits.
But, maybe, just maybe you're gonna prove me wrong. Honestly, it all depends on your goals. For example, the number one goal every year seems to be to lose weight. Nothing wrong with that. However, why? Are you unhealthy and want to feel better, build confidence and a lifestyle change? Or, do you want to create a new self image, look good and buy new clothes?
If you're goal is a new relationship, I bet you've sat down and thought about why you want to be in a relationship, right? Made a list of the characteristics you want him or her to have, what energy and influence they'll bring into your life...even how much your family will (or should) love them! Probably not. Your best bet is to dissolve your resolutions now, especially when it comes to love.
The New Year sparks such a desire to change any element of life that makes us unhappy. But life changes are goals to be considered and processes to be worked. I know what you're thinking...goals, process, work! Words like that imply time, effort and patience (which so many have so little of). I understand, but when it comes to two people coming together, you have to start with the intent (goal) choose a method (process) and go on dates (do the work). Make sense?
Grab some paper, a pen or open your fav word processor and write down what you want in a relationship in 2018. It's not a resolution, dissolve that! It's a map to achieve your relationship goal(s) for the year.